From Sophy, June 2020 Connecting indigenous perspectives on trauma with the landscape of pain in our culture, grief work, and colonisation.. what would a healthy culture look like, and how could these personal and collective traumas such as racism and abuse not be addressed if those of us with power and privilege were not so acclimatised to a traumatised landscape? […]
From Sophy, June 2020
I’ve been reading books about indigenous perspectives on trauma (including Trauma Trails and Decolonizing Trauma Work) and it’s helping me to shift my understanding of what trauma is, seeing more of how much of a western view I’ve held. I originally came to understand trauma as a personal thing, something that happened to an individual. I had already felt a powerful teaching from holding grief work has been to see that trauma – an injury to spirit, mind, emotion or body that leaves a residue of harm – doesn’t arise in the original event, but is the result of a failure of the holding field around the person or group experiencing the injury. Continue reading “Trauma, Grief and Times of upheaval”
What’s moving for you in these times?
I’ve heard many people who are doing deep work, perhaps finding space as life routines are disturbed, perhaps having early survival fears shaken up by rapid change, or by major challenges brought by COVID, lockdown or the rest of life that continues.
There’s much to wonder at, and much to grieve as our vast, complex, globalised system grapples with different pressures and possible directions and we are each impacted in so many ways.
Coming together to be present to what is true, to our human connection, to celebrate beauty, life and the courage, to acknowledge and include what is painful, has never felt more important for me. I’m continuing in my deep gratitude for those who come to Grief tending ceremonies to explore and express our hearts’ longing, our vulnerability and our capacity for love. Each space feels precious and significant.
Here are two new dates for half day workshops; there are still a couple of spaces for the weekend workshop coming up (16 – 17 May). See more info here Continue reading “Update May 11 – New online workshops”
Corona, Connection, Grief, Initiation, Transformation
How are you doing in these extra-ordinary times?
We’re offering some Grief Tending events on line, you can find full details on our Events page
Below you can find some words from Sophy and Jeremy, and a bit about what is shaping our offerings. Sophy held a one day Grief Tending day on March 21st as we took the planned Norfolk workshop on line, just as lockdown was about to get more rigorous. She’s been thinking about what might be supportive and deepening in these times, and invites you to let us know if there are things you would like us to offer. Jeremy has been reflecting on the opportunity this time brings, to move towards change bringing frames of transition, initiation, and themes of living and dying and is inviting people moved to explore Quest work as a pathway. Continue reading “Grief tending and COVID-19 April 2020”
That one constant of life, Change, arises.
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Continue reading “Grief tending update August 2019”
In Devon I feel particularly blessed that there are several people holding grief spaces in different ways, and that we meet occasionally to share experiences. Many are listed on our website so you can find your way to other offerings. It’s been rich to come together and ask questions – this month we asked “what are we learning?” which generated a wide ranging sharing. About the times we are living in.. about the need for our own support, and spaces for our own grief tending .. about the nature of grief and trauma, and the importance of support or resources for people coming to do grief work, so there is holding also when the grief tending space comes to an end. Continue reading “On grief, trauma and the importance of support”