Grief Tending Workshops

The visiting Corona virus means a pause in offering face to face workshops. We’re experimenting with running a one day event on line using Zoom on 21st March. I (Sophy) plan to continue to offer spaces for grief that are a mix of creating ceremony at home and sharing in groups on line. More to come on this in April when I’ve finished moving home in the midst of it all!

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If you haven’t attended a grief tending workshop before and would like to know more about what to expect please have a look here

I find it enriching to hear of others grief which then becomes our collective grief.  The whole day is held with respect, attentiveness and skill.”  (Lynne, one day workshop)

Tending our Grief for the World

fast flowing river

Two workshops offered in return for donations, these are intended for people engaged with responding to our multiple crises – through XR, community projects, personal action and more.  Come to one or both.

Look out for information about moving the March event on line.

Where: Bowden House, near Totnes, Devon

When: February 21st and 27th March – 2 – 6.30pm

Take space to explore, honour and release feelings you may be holding about what’s happening in our world, and your experience of standing for life. All feelings are welcome –  outrage, despair, numbness, fear, guilt, sorrow, and more. Joy and love may come too!

Grief tending with others is a powerful antidote to the isolation and harm of a system which encourages us to avoid or suppress pain. It can help us to –

  • Feel more deeply connected to self, to others, to life
  • Release energy and help prevent burnout
  • Grow a new positive relationship with grief
  • Soothe and recalibrate our physical nervous system
For more information click on the flyer below.
To book please contact Sophy at

Norfolk 1 day Grief Tending, March 21st 2020

We will be running this as an on line event. Using a mix of ceremony at home, small group and whole group sessions on line and working with some of our usual practices. We’ll include practices for self-soothing, something that can be very helpful in these times of uncertainty.

A chance to experience the expression of grief with others, in beautiful surroundings, using tried and tested practices.

Where: On line, in your own home.

When: Saturday March 21st,  10am – 6pm changed to 10am – 4.30 (latest)

Facilitators: Sophy Banks with support

Cost: Sliding scale £60 – 95 with some bursary places.

For more details and a contact Dan

“I feel more human, more connected with myself and others.” John, 1 day workshop

Presence in Uncertain Times

Fanny and Sophy feel this course is even more needed now and will be offering this as an online retreat with a mix of group sharing and enquiry, small group exercises and practices to do in your own location. We have both worked in embodied ways by phone / on line and are keen to see what we can do to connect, deepen and transform during this time of upheaval.

Where: On line and in your home

When: April 21st – 26th

Facilitators: Fanny Behrens and Sophy Banks

How can we stay grounded as we live through times of turbulences and uncertainty? For many this has been a lived reality for a long time, for some the crises of climate, corrupt leadership, social injustice and more are only starting to be felt.

We offer this event for a second time, after a profound journey with a group in 2019. An spacious and nourishing programme will give space for each participant to find their own response and enquiry.  We will include –

  • Ritual and ceremony to face into the reality of joy and grief, of living and dying.
  • Time finding connection and guidance in nature,
  • Learning and strengthening practices of embodied presence,
  • Sharing understandings and exploring the nature of these times we are living in.

The workshop combines Fanny’s long time practice of embodied presence with Sophy’s insights and frameworks for understanding the times we are in. Sophy worked for 10 years at the heart of the Transition movement and more recently has facilitated people exploring Jem Bendell’s Deep Adaptation framing, and regularly runs grief workshops, some specifically for activists or those wanting to explore their response to what’s happening in the world.

See the Movement of Being website for more information or feel free to contact Sophy if you have questions.


Grief Tending in Community Residential Nr London

Sign up for information about an on line alternative to this.

Where: Clophill, Near Bedford

When: Friday May 15th – Sunday 17th 2020

Facilitators: Sophy Banks plus team

A powerful and deeper dive into tending grief over three days. Enjoy more spacious time to come together as a group, to build the banks of the river so our grief can flow strongly and safely. Take time to get to know the landscape of your love of life, and your grief for what we have lost or never had, for the suffering of others, for the destruction of what is beautiful in our world. We end with integrating the shifts and insights this powerful work brings, preparing to come back to our lives in a good way.

This longer workshop is recommended if you feel you are experiencing intense or deep grief, or if your grief feels a long way away, especially if you don’t have support for an ongoing practice of feeling and expressing what is moving for you.

Contact Sophy for more details and a booking form

Responding to Times of Crisis and Change June 16th – 21st

Where: High Heathercombe, Devon UK

When: June 16th – 21st  – please note change to dates!

Facilitators: Sophy Banks and Mel Lamb with support

Sophy and Mel are dreaming a longer residential workshop for those interested in exploring the times we are living through using the Deep Adaptation framing of “Four Rs”:

  • Relinquishment – using the tools of grief work, death and dying,
  • Reconciliation – healing relationships, understanding systems of privilege and oppression and creating partnerships
  • Resilience – how can we bounce back from shock and change as people and communities?
  • Restoration – living lives that restore what has been broken, destroyed or traumatised?

More information coming soon. Contact Sophy to express interest and receive updates.

Devon 4 day Grief Tending

Where: High Heathercombe, Dartmoor, Devon

When: December 5 – 8, 2020

Facilitators: Sophy Banks and Jeremy Thres, with support

A deep and spacious dive into honouring and tending our grief with others. This workshop follows the form that Maeve Gavin originally devised, recognising the need for time to build trust and create the “banks of the river”, to stir our grief so that when we come to ceremony we are ready to let go of what we are carrying. There is time for gentle integration and a spacious journey back to be ready to return to our lives. This is recommended if you haven’t done a deep dive with us before, and you know you would like a generous time for release and restoration.

Participants are often surprised by how much joy and laughter comes with the space to release deeply held grief, and leave feeling nourished by the mix of beauty, nature, song and connection with others committed to honouring what our grief reveals.

Please contact us to register interest and receive a booking form


Would you like to host an event?

If you’re interested in hosting a Grief Tending event we’d love to talk with you. Here’s some information about possibilities – but if you have something else in mind please do get in touch.