Grief Tending Workshops

If you haven’t attended a grief tending workshop before and would like to know more about what to expect please have a look here

I find it enriching to hear of others grief which then becomes our collective grief.  The whole day is held with respect, attentiveness and skill.”  (Lynne, one day workshop)

Tending our Grief for the World Jan 24 – 26th, Devon

There are a few spaces still available – contact us soon if you’re interested

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We live in times of continuing and escalating crises – in social justice and tolerance; in mental health; in the environment and climate; in democracy. There are also many positive stories, of more people waking up to our situation and responding; of people working together to defend life and dignity. As we are repeatedly impacted by painful information, coming together to express our responses and feelings can be a much needed and transformative practice.

This weekend draws on the work of Joanna Macy whose “Work that Reconnects” has been supporting empowered responses to the destruction of the global industrial system for decades. This work can bring deep connection, relief from burnout, a deeper sense of what is meaningful, and is in itself a radical act in a culture which denies or silences our outrage, grief and legitimate fear.

Where: High Heathercombe, Devon UK

When: 3pm January 24th – 3pm January 26th

Facilitators: Sophy and Mel, with support

Cost: £180 – £330 sliding scale; bursaries and paying in installments by arrangement

For more information click on the flyer below.
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Apprenticing to Grief

A residential workshop for those wanting to develop their ability to hold spaces for tending grief

Where: High Heathercombe, Devon UK

When: 3pm February 7 – 4pm February 12th 2020

Facilitators: Jeremy and Sophy with support

We invite you to join us in deepening into the mystery of grief tending – honouring grief as a teacher, a power for growth and evolution, and a source of healing and restoration for what feels broken in us and in our world.

If you are interested in this please have a look at the Apprenticing to Grief page which describes the journey in much more detail, and has details on how to apply.

“Going home, I feel more capable of serving my community in kind, inviting people to a monthly gathering where we can grieve together, and recognize our shared love of life.”  Apprenticing participant

Norfolk 1 day Grief Tending, March 21st 2020

A chance to experience the expression of grief with others, in beautiful surroundings, using tried and tested practices.

Where: North Norfolk – North Farm, Burgh, Near Aylsham NR11 6TW

When: Saturday November 10th,  10am – 6pm

Facilitators: Sophy Banks with support

Cost: Sliding scale £60 – 95 with some bursary places

For more details and a contact Dan

“I feel more human, more connected with myself and others.” John, 1 day workshop

Grief Tending in Community Residential Nr London

Where: Clophill, Near Bedford

When: Friday May 15th – Sunday 17th 2020

Facilitators: Sophy Banks plus team

A powerful and deeper dive into tending grief over three days. Enjoy more spacious time to come together as a group, to build the banks of the river so our grief can flow strongly and safely. Take time to get to know the landscape of your love of life, and your grief for what we have lost or never had, for the suffering of others, for the destruction of what is beautiful in our world. We end with integrating the shifts and insights this powerful work brings, preparing to come back to our lives in a good way.

This longer workshop is recommended if you feel you are experiencing intense or deep grief, or if your grief feels a long way away, especially if you don’t have support for an ongoing practice of feeling and expressing what is moving for you.

Contact Sophy for more details and a booking form

Presence in Uncertain Times

Where: Dartington, Devon

When: April 21st – 26th

Facilitators: Fanny Behrens and Sophy Banks

How can we stay grounded as we live through times of turbulences and uncertainty? For many this has been a lived reality for a long time, for some the crises of climate, corrupt leadership, social injustice and more are only starting to be felt.

We offer this event for a second time, after a profound journey with a group in 2019. An spacious and nourishing programme will give space for each participant to find their own response and enquiry.  We will include –

  • Ritual and ceremony to face into the reality of joy and grief, of living and dying.
  • Time finding connection and guidance in nature,
  • Learning and strengthening practices of embodied presence,
  • Sharing understandings and exploring the nature of these times we are living in.

The workshop combines Fanny’s long time practice of embodied presence with Sophy’s insights and frameworks for understanding the times we are in. Sophy worked for 10 years at the heart of the Transition movement and more recently has facilitated people exploring Jem Bendell’s Deep Adaptation framing, and regularly runs grief workshops, some specifically for activists or those wanting to explore their response to what’s happening in the world.

See the Movement of Being website for more information or feel free to contact Sophy if you have questions.


Responding to Times of Crisis and Change June 16 – 21st

Where: High Heathercombe, Devon UK

When: June 16th – 21st  – please note change to dates!

Facilitators: Sophy Banks and Mel Lamb with support

Sophy and Mel are dreaming a longer residential workshop for those interested in exploring the times we are living through using the Deep Adaptation framing of “Four Rs”:

  • Relinquishment – using the tools of grief work, death and dying,
  • Reconciliation – healing relationships, understanding systems of privilege and oppression and creating partnerships
  • Resilience – how can we bounce back from shock and change as people and communities?
  • Restoration – living lives that restore what has been broken, destroyed or traumatised?

More information coming soon. Contact Sophy to express interest and receive updates.


Would you like to host an event?

If you’re interested in hosting a Grief Tending event we’d love to talk with you. Here’s some information about possibilities – but if you have something else in mind please do get in touch.